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Disagreeing At Work

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Helpful articles

Every few days, I publish a short article or helpful snippet to my Linked In page and to my blog. I have reproduced them below, for ease of reading. Firstly though, a general piece that can serve as an overview for the articles that follow:

Personal Counselling Issues

One of the most common issues that clients want to address when they meet me, is their ongoing anxiety. The feelings and thoughts involved are emotionally tiring and hold you back from doing what you want, whether that’s pursuing your career goal or going to that exercise class that you booked.

Closely linked with this is improving confidence. Self-doubt and turbulence in thought and behaviour mean that opportunities are not taken advantage of and you feel stuck.

Wanting to be more positive and motivated is another common issue, where you feel drawn towards the negative and find your energy levels are low.

Some clients ‘just want to be happier’ in their life, rather than feeling sad and not being able to clearly understand why.

Relationships feature in this for a lot for clients, who know that they are not giving or receiving love well and worry constantly about it.

Better mental health is a goal for many people.

I will spend time with you identifying what you want and helping you to achieve your outcomes. I do not believe that we need to dig down and analyse your past, something that has often been shown to make things worse for individuals.

Disagreeing At Work

11.10.2021

If you want to communicate better in a challenging situation, this blog may help you?

I saw a client today who wanted to be able to debate cleanly. She said that whilst she remains calm while she tells a colleague what she thinks, they sometimes become angry and their relationship suffers as a result.

We initially had a conversation about what she could do differently as she was struggling to find a strategy that she was happy with. I asked if she would like to practice a suggestion from me.

I suggested that the next time she wanted to have a conversation with her colleague about something she could begin with "what do you think about x? I suggested listening hard and asking probing questions to understand their perspective, then to ask clarification questions to check her understanding before confirming that she understood.

We spoke about it being easy at this point if she agreed with her colleague. But what if she disagreed?

I suggested that she say "I understand and can see where you are coming from. I actually think y, because of a, b and c (rationale).

We explored understanding vs agreeing. We also explored how understanding another's perspective before sharing what you think allowed you to consider that first and perhaps even agree with aspects before being understood yourself - hopefully!

I will let you know how she got in a month's time when I am seeing her next.

For help, support and guidance with your personal and professional challenges please contact me.

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Pam

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